All Listed Sites

Here’s a list of all of the sites that we’ve reviewed thus far on Who Wants Dates.
Finding Singles
Date.com
Christian Mingle
Christian Cafe
Catholic Mingle
Black Singles
American Singles
Mate1
Prime Singles
Over40matching
SinglesNet
PerfectMatch
Matchmaker
Match.com

Getting Over The Stigma of Online Dating

If you look online for information about online dating, you might come across articles like “Online Dating: Only For The Desperate?” or “Online Dating Stigma – Is It Gone?”

Now, it’s up for debate whether the stigma is gone or not – online dating sites (all of them combined) have well over 20 million members. Match.com alone has 15 million members!

The ultimate sign that online dating went mainstream was when Dr. Phil joined forces with Match.com to offer dating advice. However, even with Dr. Phil’s stamp of approval & the massive membership bases of these online dating sites, a stigma still surrounds the concept of online dating.

Granted, it has lessened over the years, but it’s still there. You will still find some couples trying to conceal the fact that they’ve met on the internet. For a while, I was very much against the concept of online dating. I felt like it was the easy way out – that I would be giving up on the concept of meeting people in person if I signed up for a dating site. I felt like it would make me a weak person.

In reality though – that’s an awfully silly way to think about it. First off – just because you sign up for an online dating site doesn’t mean you’re giving up on looking for love in the “traditional” ways. It’s just another avenue for you to find relationships. You can still go out to bars, clubs, libraries, parks, wherever you would look for interesting people and try to meet them there. There is no clause in your membership to online dating sites that says you can’t go outside.

With that said – just because YOU might be over the stigma of online dating doesn’t mean your friends will be. Though you shouldn’t really have to justify your actions to them, if you feel the need, here are some good ways to explain why online dating is beneficial to you – with some cheesy metaphors:

1. People in business are always talking about the concept of ‘multiple streams of income’ – why can’t you have multiple streams of dating opportunities? This allows you to find dating opportunities all the time, any time.

2. In the world of advertising, finding targeted buyers for what you are selling is the ultimate goal of your advertisements. When you see someone of the opposite sex walking down the street, you know nothing about them. In online dating, you can sift through people’s profiles and find out if they fit your type, and pick out the people who are specifically compatible with you. This saves you a lot of work, and will lower your failure rate in dating significantly.

3. The internet is designed to connect people. You’re just taking advantage of the resources given to you.
The truth is though – if you see an opportunity, take it. Online dating is a great opportunity for you. What do care about more, what your friends think, or finding the love of your life? Think like Machiavelli – the end justifies the means. You think you will care what your friends think if you’ve found the love of your life, even if it was from online dating? I don’t think so.

Now get out there!